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A new approach to the cure for hay fever

Friday, May 13th, 2011

There are numerous drugs, antihistamines and sprays available both by prescription and over the counter to combat the nightmares of hay fever.  As a sufferer I have tried many such approaches and I’m sure that the pharmacists have made a fortune out of it each year.

The prescribed drugs have never provided a fully satisfactory solution to the problem.  We are just left to wonder quite how bad we might have been if we hadn’t taken anything at all.

Now, let me start by saying that I’m no expert when it comes to medicine or psychology.  I haven’t even devoted much time to the study of hay fever and this is in fact the first time I have written about it (but perhaps it won’t be the last).  I am simply writing what I know about my own experiences.

As a youngster I would spend much time hiding in a darkened room while others were enjoying the sun.  I used to dread family walks in the countryside.  I would find myself concentrating on the tarmac of the road rather than daring to look at the ‘beautiful’ fields and trees that everyone else thought so wonderful.

What about the idyllic family picnic scenario?  Does your wife continually tell you to come and sit down while you are desperately trying to hold your nose and your sandwich five and a half feet above the danger zone?

Why do they put pictures of flowers and pollen on the boxes of hay fever relief treatment?  Does that put anyone else off buying it or is it just me?

What is hey fever?

Hay fever is an over reaction by the immune system.  The nose detects pollen. The immune system sees it as a dangerous foreign body and reacts by over producing histamine. It is the unwanted histamine that results in a runny nose, streaming eyes, itchy throat and generally plays havoc with everything in the sinus area.

Hay fever is not really an allergy in the true sense of he word.  It is, as we have said, a malfunction of the immune system.   The drugs we are given do not cure hay fever.  Main stream medicine has no cure for hay fever.  All the drugs try and do is suppress the symptoms.

It is my view that we have been approaching the hay fever allergy from the wrong direction and that rather than taking drugs we should instead combat it with the power of the mind.

It’s all in the mind.

I will never forget how alarmed I was the first time I got hay fever from watching the TV.  I was perfectly okay until I joined my mother in the lounge to watch tennis from Wimbledon.  Seeing all that grass made my nose and eyes stream at full flow.

Could hay fever really be one of those ailments that is just ‘all in the mind’?  I was appalled at myself.

It starts to appear obvious that the nose is not the only culprit in the scenario.  It would seem that the brain also takes its cues from the eyes.

What’s one of the biggest causes of hay fever for you?  Is it the dreaded yellow fields of oil seed rape?  Anyone educated in agriculture will tell you that the pollen grains from this crop are too big and too heavy to be air borne.  (It’s big sticky pollen that relies solely on insects for its transport).

Do people educated in agriculture get up your nose too?

Oil seed rape DOES cause hay fever!  We know very well that it does.  But lets look at it again.  Is it our EYES and not our noses that are telling our brain about the problem?  If that’s all it is then surely we can tell our brain whatever we like!

The Eureka! moment.

That’s when the big breakthrough came and things started to improve for me.  If the brain could be fooled into thinking there was pollen around when there wasn’t any then surely it could be fooled into thinking there was no pollen when there was!

So, what are we learning?  Hay fever is not a proper allergy.  You can’t rely on medicine to cure something that isn’t a proper illness.  Hay fever is a conditioned response.  A conditioned response that our brain has mis-learned and we should therefore be able to un-learn it.  Shouldn’t we?

I want to see less focus on sprays and anti-histamines.  I want to see more focus from those who specialise in the likes of NLP, hypnotherapy and acupuncture.  This is the approach that I want to start learning about.  This is the route that I will be taking my kids on if they start to suffer this misery.

It’s too late for me.  Don’t get me wrong; I still suffer.  It’s just a hundred times better than it used to be.  I’m now in my forty third year and my over-active immune system is past it’s best.  Or maybe the mind control is working.  Who knows?  As long as I believe it is fixed.

Parents risk being scare-mongered into denying their children internet access

Monday, July 5th, 2010

I am a big advocate of technology and I believe that children should be encouraged to be technology-enabled if they are not going to be left behind in the race for information and social interaction.

Many school children these days have a bigger knowledge of computer-based activities than their parents.  Some parents just let the kids get on with it and others are so paranoid of the potential dangers that they refuse to allow their children to use the internet at all.  Both outlooks are cause for concern.

I have just returned from a seminar at my child’s school.  The accompanying paperwork says that the aim is to “give parents the confidence to be able to enjoy the internet safely”.  This is a commendable aim and exactly what is required.   The trouble is… I have come home somewhat disappointed.

Parents are at risk of being scare-mongered into keeping their children off the internet altogether.  The attendees were bombarded with dozens of statistics about the number of paedophiles and the number of searches for porn and the number of children with internet access.   Many parents attended the session because they were not very computer savvy and already had fears and concerns for their children who were racing ahead on the technology track.

Facebook was repeatedly targeted.  Cyber bullying is a major cause for concern and this was discussed at length.  I agree wholeheartedly that bullying needs to be addressed but banning your child from Facebook is not the answer.  By the end of the session some attending parents were getting very worked up and declaring that it’s plain and simple… “Facebook is pure evil and I wont allow it in my house”.

Of course Facebook is not at all evil.  The evil comes from those who misuse it.  Kids can be so cruel to each other.  Facebook, texting, forums and chat just supply additional mediums for them to express their cruelty.  We need to get the problem the right way up.   We need to address it from the perspective of the cruelty and teach responsibility with social interaction.  It’s too easy to blame the tools.

Another parent said that in her day things were so much easier.  She said that all they had was bullying in the playground and at least they could go home and close the bedroom door and get away from it but these days it’s all around… on the computer and on the phone and you cant get away from it.   I’m proud that my ten year old daughter sees it differently.  She says she would rather be bullied online than at school.  “Because” she says “online you can block them and de-friend them or report them.”  She understands the tools at her disposal and knows how to use them.

I drove home desparate to redress the balance so here’s my rant about the positives of Facebook!   Let’s take bullying in the playground.  If that’s happenning to my children then I have little or no visibility of it.  With Facebook, if I am in my child’s friend list, then I actually get to see who my child is interacting with.  I get to see who their friends are.   I get to see who the nice ones are and which ones we’d rather not invite round for tea!

Children should use the internet.  They should understand how to use Google, how to research and how to use to social and networking tools that are available to them.  Our fear of the internet must not cause us parents to deny our children access to it. 

One comment from a teacher who had been on a child safety course summed it up nicely:  We all know that we can’t live without water but water can kill us if we were to drown in it.  We must not deny our children water; we must teach them to swim.

Recommended reading:
The Child Exploitation & Online Protection Centre
The CEOP’s Think You Know website

Free Fall Skydive: We did it!!!

Monday, May 18th, 2009
Baldrick, Vicki, Patrick and Nick

Baldrick, Vicki, Patrick and Nick

Ready to jump (and still smiling!)I can’t believe it is any kind of natural reaction, but that’s me, still SMILING while standing at the open door of an aircraft 12,000ft in the air!  What was I thinking?  It’s all a bit of a blur now but, Wow! what a rush.

Saturday 16th May at Hibaldstow Airfield.  Vicki and I were made very welcome by Mike and Rachael of Target Skysports.  We were called for a spot of training: how to jump out of the plane, how to fly, how to land, that sort of thing.  Family and friends gathered and then came the long wait as we waited for the weather to give an opportunity for another plane load to go up.

We were plane load 11 out of 12 but it was worth the wait.  We donned a  flying suit and harness.  Me in a lovely turquoise number with flying hat designed to make you look stupid in the video!   I was met by cameraman Wez who asked me a few questions for the film.  I was to be strapped to Nick (because he was strapped to the paracute!)  ‘Nick’ sounded like a good strong ‘being in charge’ kind of a name and I knew I could trust him.  Vicki was to be strapped to Baldrick.  Hmm…

Dive!The plane was small and felt quite cramped.  Perhaps that was because I was strapped tight to Nick.  At 12,000 we shuffled ahead of Vicki and Baldrick to the back door of the plane with cameraman Wez.  I still can’t believe I was smiling – every bit of  logic within me knows that you dont open the door until the plane is on tarmac.

We jumped.  We fell.  We went rather fast.  Camerahead Wez tried to keep up but Nick had a definate weight advantage with me strapped to him!

I remember having no real sense of how high I was as there was an awful lot of cloud.  Come to think of it, there wasn’t a huge sense of speed.  The only reference point I had got was Wez and he was falling at the same speed right in front of me with his thumbs in the air and a grin on his face.  Having said that, my face did feel like it was about to turn inside out.

To Infinity...  And Beyond!

We waved goodbye to Wez and opened the canapy.  What a contrast.  After the initial tug as we settled into the harness we slowed and gently floated in the sky.  Nick and I were now able to have a conversation.  He produced a pair of straps that he invited me to take hold of.  We pulled hard on the right and span around.  We pulled harder on the left and span the other way.  Excellent fun!  I think I enjoyed that bit better than the falling.  It’s good to be in control!

Falling at 125mphAs we got below 1,000ft Nick took the reins so that my hands were available for waving.  I could see the assembled crowd.  I had no idea whether they could pick me out under my bright orange canapy but I waved anyway!

Back with my feet on the ground, Wez pointed the camera at me for a reaction.  Ten out of ten!  I looked round to see Vicki landing safely.  Excellent – We did it!

Back on the ground

Would we do it again?  Oh yes!

Huge thanks to all those who turned out in the questionable weather to watch.  Many thanks to Stuart for putting the opportunity my way.  Thanks especially to all those of you who sponsored us.  Vicki and I are close to raising £1,000.  There’s still time for you to add to the total is you haven’t had an opportunity yet: Click here to give money!

Click here to join the Facebook group.

UPDATE: Vicki now has her pics so here’s one of hers.  See her blog.

vicki-jump

Please sponsor my charity Skydive!

Friday, April 24th, 2009

charity skydiveDear friends,

Please please help me raise a heap of money for Marie Curie Cancer Care.  There’s not long left so I have to make a concerted effort to reach target (£800).

On May 16th I will be visiting Hibaldstow Airfield with a bunch of friends and we will be doing a tandem jump from 10,000 feet.  Jumping out of a plane will be a first for me so its all very exciting and a chance to tick another box of ‘things I ought to have done by the time I finish being 40′!

Many many thanks to those who have already sponsored me, particularly mum and Clare for getting things started so generously.

If you haven’t yet sponsored me then you are invited to do so by clicking on this link – markham.ph/sponsor-me

I will be arriving at the ‘drop zone’ at 13:00 on Saturday 16th May.  If you would like to come and watch then you would be very welcome to come along and join the ground crew.  Non jumpers on the ground include brother David, mum and dad, Jane and Stephen.  If you plan on coming along please leave a comment on this blog.  In fact leave a comment on this blog anyway!  Please give me whatever support you can!

That link again: markham.ph/sponsor-me

Thanks! :-)

UPDATE (Wednesday 13th)  Sponsorship is now in excess of  £700.  If we can get over £800 then Vicki will jump too!!  How exciting :-)

UPDATE (Thursday 14th) We have reached to £800 mark.  That means Vicki will be joining me and diving from the plane!  New target is £1,000.

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It’s time for broadband on the move!

Saturday, March 14th, 2009

Right, the time has surely come for mobile broadband in my life.  I want to be able to access o2_mobile_broadband_modemthe Internet from my laptop where ever I happen to be.  Whether it’s out and about on client sites or while camping in the top left corner of Wales.

Mobile broadband is now well and truly with us and its popularity is growing at an incredible rate.  It can now boast decent speeds and affordable prices.  In the past the expense just wasn’t worth it.  PC Plus magazine once worked out that you could download 20GB for the price of a semi-detached house!

So which operator is best?  Do I go with O2 (my phone provider) or Vodafone, Orange, T Mobile or 3?

After initial reading in the PC mags I had decided that Vodafone would be the best bet.  My respect for that company changed dramatically after my partner’s experience of Vodafone’s customer service when she tried to get a PAC code.  Read all about it in her blog.

O2 joined the mobile race a little later and it took them a while to get up to speed.  I am now expecting that speed is no longer an issue on their network.  I’m currently favouring O2 as my mobile provider.

Contract or PAYG is the next option to ponder.  Currently around £15/month for a contract or £15/month pay as you go.   Since my usage is going to be sporadic, I reckon that by not using the thing at all for a couple of months will save me £30/year.

That’s it then!  Let’s try an o2 PAYG modem!  A review will no doubt follow.

Update: 23/03/2009 – Got one!  I’ve not put any credit on it yet but the software seems good.  More details to follow.

Why do you have a dot ph (.ph) in your domain name? (Or the story behind markham.ph)

Friday, July 18th, 2008

Well, yes, it’s a good question and one that I do indeed get asked from time to time.  Here’s the answer…

I wanted an email address with nothing but my name in it. firstname@surname.com would have been ideal but hey all the good ones (markham.com, markham.co.uk) had been taken.  I used markham.org for a while. Or, specifically, I used patrick@markham.org for an annoying company had bought lots of domains and was selling them a name at a time!  Not an ideal solution.

Dot ph (.ph) is  the TLD (Top Level Domain) for the Philippines.  The Philippines were the first country to allow their domains to be sold to people outside of their own country.  markham.ph was available so it became mine and I gradually phased out markham.org over the following five years.

I’ve become quite fond of it now but it did annoy me once when I tried to sign up for something but I got blacklisted on suspicion of being some kind of untrustworthy foriegn rogue.

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Patrick Markham joins the world of the Blogger.

Sunday, July 13th, 2008
Patrick Markham

Patrick Markham

Hello World!

Or perhaps not.  Perhaps just ‘Hello Patrick!’.  Maybe I am the only one who sees this page.  If you are reading this and your are not me then please let me know.  It feels very lonely at the moment.

This article marks my FIRST EVER BLOG!  That’s right; I’ve never even commented on someone else’s blog.  In fact, I’m not even a big reader of blogs.  I’ve heard a lot about blogs so I thought that perhaps it was time that I got involved – by jumping in at the deep end and publishing my very own blog here on markham.ph

I really have no idea at this stage what my blog will do or where it will go.  I dont really know what I want to say.  Perhaps I will have a daily rant about something.  Perhaps that will turn into a weekly rant and then a monthly rant and then I’ll lose interest and forget my password.  On the other hand it may flourish and become a hive of activity.

Anyway I have to think about getting ready to go out for lunch now.  Maybe I’ll post a note about it later.